Psychotherapy in London & online.
If you're struggling with something and considering psychotherapy, I'm here for you.
I am a UKCP/MBACP registered psychotherapist working in London and online. I believe every client deserves a fresh approach. You are the expert on your own life, yet we can all benefit from a skilled perspective on recent or longer-term difficulties. Working in open-ended contracts, I am creative, confident and dedicated. Careful listening with presence and compassion can lead to meaningful change. If you'd like an initial conversation or to arrange a meeting, please get in touch.
Areas of work
Problems tend to gain labels. These change over time. Currently popular ones are below and by no means comprehensive. How can I claim to work with such a wide range? The words attempt to separate, but what they describe is part of a human and social system. That is my specialism.
Sex & SEXUALITY
Taking an open and non-judgemental approach, we can approach this area with sensitivity, tact and determination to untangle what's going on. I am happy to work with any gender and sexuality or none, including victims of sexual violence, offenders and if you fear creating sexual harm. I am BDSM/kink aware, and comfortable to discuss chemsex, fetishes, sex and porn addictions.
I am happy to meet with couples in 50 or 75 min slots if available. I am familiar with principles of gender, sexual and relationship diversity including non-monogamy, polyamory and modern relationships and families of whatever configuration.
Intimate relationships are the source of great highs and sometimes unbearable lows. This can be relationships with partners long or short-term, monogamous or non-monogamous. Family, children or friends. You may also be finding work colleagues difficult, or struggling to adapt to different social situations while maintaining a sense of 'me'. You can work effectively on your personal relationships within a therapeutic relationship.
Addiction & COMPULSIVE BEHAVIOUR
Frequently indulging something that feels good at the time then causes other problems is a difficult habit to get out of. It could be drugs, drink, sex, anxiety, the list goes on. Avoiding simplistic or technique-based programmes, we will investigate what part this behaviour is playing in the system of 'you' and how you might achieve the same results in a healthier way.
If you're feeling deeply unmotivated and disconnected, unable to engage in life, or a low mood that feels inescapable no matter what you do or try, psychotherapy can help you move forward.
Loss and bereavement
This could be grief, or the death of loved ones, serious illness of yourself and others, or the loss of something or someone. My offer is to support you at a difficult time and stay with you for as long as you need as you try to adjust.
Whether physical or emotional, regular or infrequent: the intentional hurting of yourself for some reason that seems to make sense, yet at another level you question. Is your self-harm a form of self-care?
PsychedelicS & PSYCHOTHERAPY
If my research and knowledge of psychedelics and psychotherapy is of interest, please visit this information page.
Internally or externally directed; profound and frequent feelings of rage that feel impossible to contain; an emotional dynamic that upsets the relationships most important to you. Can anger ever be righteous? Do you need anger management, or is it really about appropriate expression? Questions we can explore together.
Gender is complicated, each of us struggling to determine or discover our own relation to social norms, structures and institutions. Navigating this territory is difficult. We'll work toward greater clarity.
This could be about reaching your potential, eliminating self-imposed blocks, becoming more in control of your life or getting out of it more of what you really want. Coming to therapy doesn't mean there's something 'wrong' with you, only that you perceive room for improvement.
Issues around weight and relationship to food or drink, self-esteem, work-place politics, public speaking, or in the bedroom. Developing confidence is often about acceptance.
Stress and anxiety
Whether at home or at work, generalised or specific/triggered. Stress and anxiety are an increasing problem in modern life. You can improve your relationship to it.
There is no ‘top’ of the food chain, for hierarchy is invented by man. Nature is a network.
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